The elephant in your bed – when closeness needs language again. Our book recommendation.
Sometimes there's more than just a blanket between two people.
Sometimes there is something invisible there.
Unspoken.
Noticeable.
An elephant.
With her book "The Elephant in Your Bed" , which will be released on February 18th , Sonja Ruess brings this quiet topic to where it belongs:
into consciousness – and back into the relationship.
Not a guide.
But an honest mirror.
Who is behind the book
Sonja Ruess does not write from a distance –
but from experience, observation and genuine closeness to the subject of humanity.
As an author, sex therapist and counselor for couples, she has been dealing for years with precisely those moments that are rarely talked about openly:
when closeness becomes fragile,
when desire changes,
When conversations are lacking – even though there is a connection.
On her website, she describes sexuality not as a performance or technique, but as something living, changeable, and deeply personal.
This attitude is also reflected in The Elephant in Your Bed :
mindful, honest, and free from easy answers.
Sonja Ruess creates spaces – for questions, uncertainties and new perspectives.
Not to prescribe solutions.
But to encourage people to listen to themselves and each other again.
Not a guide. But an invitation.
This book doesn't aim to fix anything.
It doesn't want to optimize anything.
And certainly not to lecture.
Instead, it invites you to look.
To a place where closeness becomes quieter.
Where desire changes.
Where words fail – even though feelings are present.
Sonja Ruess writes about sexuality and relationships without pressure, without judgment and without clichés.
Not as a guide, but as an open space for honest reflection.
Why this book is important right now
Many relationships don't fail because of a lack of love –
but rather due to a lack of language.
On unspoken needs.
Shame and insecurity.
The fear of hurting the other person –
or to show themselves.
"The Elephant in Your Bed" addresses precisely these subtle tensions.
Not loud.
Not provocative.
But respectful, mindful, and profound.
That's precisely why the book strikes a chord –
and its release on February 18th comes at just the right time.
What it's really about
It's not about "more sex".
It's about genuine connection.
To answer questions like:
- What do I really need?
- What am I holding back – and why?
- How can we become curious about each other again?
The book creates a space where these questions are allowed.
Without shame.
Without pressure to perform.
No comparison.
Who is "The Elephant in Your Bed" for?
For couples who love each other but no longer take it for granted.
For people who want to experience their sexuality more consciously.
For all those who feel that closeness can be more than routine.
This book is not aimed at "problem relationships".
But to people who want to take an honest look.
Our conclusion
"The Elephant in Your Bed" is quiet – and that's precisely why it's powerful.
A book that doesn't polarize, but unites.
This doesn't explain, but rather opens doors.
It will be born on February 18, 2026 .
Perhaps exactly when it is needed.
and with a bit of luck, win a selected experience!
And perhaps the most important thing about it is:
No longer overlooking the elephant –
but to watch it together.
