Sustained silence – Shibari, trust and the power of slowing down
What happens when desire doesn't get louder – but quieter?
What if touch doesn't overwhelm, but rather gathers?
What if closeness arises not from intensity, but from focus, trust, and time ?
In her new short story, Lisa Opel takes us into precisely this room.
Who is Lisa Opel?
Lisa Opel is an author, speaker, and pleasure advocate. She speaks openly, honestly, and without embellishment about desire, fantasies, and lived sexuality.
Her work is not about provocation for the sake of provocation – but about self-discovery, communication and embodied experience .
She is known, among other things, for her book GIVE IT TO ME! with realistic erotic short stories, as well as for her bilingual podcast Deep & Dirty , in which she talks with experts from very different fields about sexuality, relationships and intimacy – from sex work to couples therapy.
This episode focuses on a single short story . Not a guide. Not a how-to. But a deliberately captured moment.
Shibari – beyond technique and aesthetics
Shibari is often reduced to ropes, knots, and visual aesthetics.
Something different happens in this story.
Here, the rope is not used to hold on –
but to focus attention .
To make the world smaller.
To invite presence.
A space is created in which restraint is more important than action and trust carries more weight than control.
Tunnel Game: When less becomes more
A central element of the story is the so-called tunnel game – the deliberate narrowing of perception and sensation.
When options disappear, something magical happens:
- Touch becomes more noticeable
- Breathing slows down.
- Small details suddenly become loud
- It's not about maximum stimulation, but about depth .
- Not about spectacle, but about genuine feeling.
Warmth, silence, and deliberate contrast
The sensory stimulation used also follows this principle.
The warmth of our ginger spray is not used as an effect, but as a contrast :
Warmth meets silence.
Anticipation meets care.
The body is awakened – without being overtaxed.
The result is not staged, but intimacy.
Not a guide – but a why
This story does not explain how to do something "right".
It deliberately remains open.
Instead, she lingers on the questions:
- Why can slowing down feel radical?
- Why does trust change the way touch is received?
- Why doesn't intimacy have to be loud to be powerful?
Why audio?
It is no coincidence that this short story is being listened to .
The audio format perfectly reflects what she is talking about:
Listening means staying present.
Do not scroll.
Not to be consumed.
But to let oneself be held – for a moment.
Listen now
The short story: "I chose Peter the policeman" – a story about Shibari, BDSM at its best, tunnel play and size difference – is part of the Deep & Dirty podcast and will be released
on Wednesday, February 11, 2026 at 8:30 a.m.
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Around the launch, you can also expect an exciting competition and further insights – stay tuned.
This story is for everyone,
who are curious about sensuality that unfolds slowly.
For anyone who wants to experience how less stimulation can create more feeling .
And for all those who want to experience what it feels like,
to be held in every sense of the word.
