What exactly is spanking?
In the BDSM context, spanking means that a person is hit by one or more people for satisfaction or, in a sexual context, with the consent and satisfaction of all.
The number, strength, and method of hitting can vary. Spanking is a form of "impact play," a BDSM style that involves direct physical action. Spanking usually involves hitting the buttocks. It is often used to create pleasure, control, or a special dynamic between partners.
What is the appeal of spanking?
Sexual preferences are something very personal and individual, so why someone likes spanking depends on the person and is a great opportunity for an intimate conversation about preferences .
Many people who enjoy receiving spanking derive pleasure from it. Playing with pain and power can, however, evoke a state of natural euphoria. This is because it releases endorphins and other pleasure hormones, as well as stress hormones like adrenaline.
Beyond the physical aspect of spanking, these acts occur within a power imbalance, with the receiving person being the "spanko" or "bottom" and being treated at the discretion of the "spanker" or "top."
To ensure both parties enjoy the experience, the bottom should generally be as relaxed as possible. The top should gradually increase the intensity, carefully observing the bottom's reactions. If the bottom suddenly tenses up after a blow, shifts their weight drastically, or moves out of position, it's advisable to adjust the intensity or frequency.
What do you spank with?
The sensations that arise during impact play – often referred to as spanking – vary depending on the part of the body hit and the material of the tool used.
The first attempts usually involve hitting the buttocks with the hand, which can involve hitting the buttocks with the entire palm. Depending on how you hold your fingers, the angle from which you hit, or even whether you close your hand, the intensity and sensation change. The pain can vary from dull to sharp, but is usually blunt and broad.
Wide tools like a paddle, a board, or a flogger generally produce a dull sensation. In contrast, narrow tools like a stick, a riding crop, a belt, or a single-tail whip usually cause sharper pain. Top and bottom must discuss the type of hit and their preferences.
What should you pay attention to when hitting?
The mind also plays a role! Impact play affects both the body and the mind. After intense sessions, a psychological crash ( drop) can occur, especially in the receiver, but also in the giver, due to feelings of guilt or shame. Therefore, it is essential to consider the emotional needs of everyone involved and to ensure intensive aftercare .
The anatomy of the bottom
The striker should also have at least a basic understanding of anatomy and know which areas can be hit and how hard. For safety reasons, strikes should be directed at areas of the human body that are well protected by fat or muscle. Absolutely taboo are the kidneys, neck, coccyx, hip bones, head, and all joints.
The usual targets for flagellation are the buttocks and the two areas of the upper back below the shoulder blades. With caution, the thighs, the back of the calves, and the rib cage can also be targeted. The chest is another potential but risky target and should only be included with experience.
In general, any impact play carries the risk of leaving marks or damaging the skin. Bruises sometimes appear days later, and depending on the clothing, they may even be visible to others. Our ginger massage oil can help prevent bruises by stimulating blood circulation in the skin!
Generally speaking!
Before the spanking, there should be an intensive exchange in which the current health situation, boundaries , safe words , and preferences are discussed. It should also be clarified what the experience is like and whether the bottom is taking any medication that could influence the play. The general rule is: Stay safe but kinky!
