What exactly is spanking?
In the BDSM context, spanking means that a person is hit by one or more people for satisfaction or, in a sexual context, with the consent and satisfaction of all.
The number, strength and means of hitting can vary. Spanking is part of “impact play”, a type of BDSM play in which the body is directly affected. Spanking usually involves hitting the bottom. It is often used to create pleasure, control or a special dynamic between partners.
What is the appeal of spanking?
Sexual preferences are something very personal and individual, so why exactly someone likes spanking depends on the person and is a great opportunity for an intimate conversation about preferences .Many people who enjoy receiving spanking derive pleasure from pain. Playing with pain and power can actually produce a state of natural euphoria. This is because it releases endorphins and other happiness hormones, as well as stress hormones such as adrenaline.
In addition to the physical aspect of spanking, these acts take place within a power imbalance, with the receiving person being the “spanko” or “bottom” and being treated as the “spanker” or “top” sees fit.
In order for both to enjoy the experience, the bottom should generally be as relaxed as possible. The top should increase the intensity gradually, carefully observing the bottom's reactions. If the bottom suddenly tenses up after a blow, shifts weight drastically or moves out of position, it is advisable to adjust the intensity or frequency.
What do you spank with?
The sensations that arise during impact play – often referred to as spanking – vary depending on the part of the body hit and the material of the tool used.The first attempts are usually made with the hand, and you can hit the bottom with the whole palm of your hand. Depending on how you hold your fingers, the angle at which you hit, or whether you close your hand, the intensity and the feeling change. The pain can vary between dull and sharp. But it is more likely to be dull and broad.
Wide tools such as a paddle, a board or a flogger usually produce a dull sensation. In contrast, narrow tools such as a stick, a riding crop, a belt or a single-tail whip usually produce a sharper pain. What to hit with and what preferences there are must be clarified by top and bottom in a mutual discussion.
What should you pay attention to when hitting?
The mind plays a part too! Impact play affects both the body and the psyche. After intensive sessions, a psychological crash (drop) can occur, especially in the receiving person, but also in the giving person due to feelings of guilt or shame. It is therefore essential to consider the emotional needs of everyone involved and to ensure intensive aftercare afterwards.The Anatomy of the Bottom
The person doing the attack should also have at least a basic knowledge of anatomy and know which areas can be hit and how hard. For safety reasons, strikes should be made on areas of the human body that are well protected by fat or muscle. The kidneys, neck, coccyx, hip bones, head and all joints are absolutely taboo.
The usual targets for flagellation are the buttocks and the two areas of the upper back below the shoulder blades. With caution, the thighs, the back of the calves and the rib cage can also be targets. The chest is another potential but risky target and should only be included with experience.
Basically, with any impact game there is a risk of leaving marks or damaging the skin. Sometimes bruises do not appear until days later and, depending on the clothing, could be visible to third parties. Our Ginger Massage Oil can help prevent bruises as it stimulates blood circulation in the skin!
